Growth reflection

January check in!

How are you feeling this January? If you have stumbled across this blog or I have found myself in your inbox. I believe your guardian angels want you to keep reading…

That’s not me using a cringey way to get you to read the blog but I feel really called today to ask myself and anyone reading to ask YOUR self….

What are you proud of? What have you done over the past 5 to 10 years that your proud of??

Really think about this… journal if you have to. With a physical note pad and pen.

Growth can be seen in so many different ways. How you deal with challenges, how you react or don’t react to situations.

Are you a mum who has been carving out a little time for yourself and have noticed the difference for it?and proud of yourself for making guilt free choices. It could be anything!

I’ve noticed so much how I’ve evolved this year and I truly feel in such a good place for it. I struggled A LOT after having my second and always saw mums post about how they’ve “found them selves again’ or “got themselves back”. But I am not who I was before, I am that an more.

And I know that sounds cringe as absolute fuck! Like who is this girl talking about herself like that. But I have dealt with a lot personally, been a rock bottom, hated myself, not seen the light and because of all of that I’ve had to make better decisions say no to things and LISTEN TO MY GUT!

20 year old me would not of dealt with a house move on Christmas week, solo parenting her autistic 4 year old and very hyper and bouncy 2 year old. I’d of been riddled with anxiety. Stressed. Unorganised and felt shitty.

I remember the first Christmas I hosted in our old home. I didn’t have the correct utensils for things or stuff like that and my mum and brother where joking around while we were in the kitchen preparing Christmas dinner and I just did not know my arse from my elbow.

Fast forward to now… I’m much more organised, plan better, make better decisions that align with whats best for my OWN nervous system and hosted a very beautiful Christmas Day after just moving in our house and had things ‘put together’ as much as I possibly could.

Now I’m not saying I don’t get stressed. I definitely do LOL! And things can make me anxious, but I deal with challenges and day to day situations so much better than I used to.

Even things like for example, taking both children out by myself used to be really difficult for me. Not everyone understood our challenges out in public and yes “autistic children need to get used to it” but I was still mentally recovering from giving birth, adjusting to meeting everyones needs (not my own at the time) and regulating my own nervous system. I honestly felt stuck in fight or flight or two years.

Turning 30 has been great for me, but I don’t think its being 30, it’s been a huge personal development growth for me and things I believe have contributed massively, I’ll let below;

• Talking to a councillor

• Having a life coach mentor Rachel Mason Life coaching

• Having a cleaner - who is a friend of mine who has had a massive impact on my life. She’s helped me so much become a more organised person which has had a huge impact on my mental health.

• Trusting my gut when making decisions.

• Hypnosis which ill talk about another time.

• Daily mindset strategies.

• Journaling

• Self help books and resources.

• Talking to and ADHD coach for women - Samattemptsmotherhood instagram

• Seeking my referral and officially getting and ADHD diagnosis which explains a lot!

• Doing more of the things I love, being my authentic self (essentially unmasking which i’m still working on)

• Being more intuitive with my parenting. One thing I used to go back and forth feeling guilty, am I too soft.. and I too strict. Seeing how others do it, reading things up as i’m a massive researcher and reader.

• Utilising delivery food shops or uber shop deliveries for bread and milk etc,

• Clearing out clutter

I know some of these are from a privileged place of affording certain things (however not all) but my mental health and being the absolute best version of myself for my children is my priority. I also don’t go out and drink as much as I used to, or eat out for tea with friends etc, so I do also believe its choosing where to send being disciplined and asking yourself.. is this going to benefit my well-being.

I am absolutely not a perfect person or perfect mother. But I really am proud of my growth!

I’ve not only got my ‘magic’ back, as anyone who knows how I love to talk about magic, witchy vibes, oracle cards and such but with even more knowledge. Even more tools. Understanding. Compassion.

So with that I ask, again, what are some personal achievements of your own you can be aware of? They’re still valid of they look different to mine! And where in your life going forward can you be more decisive, honour your gut feeling and live as the true you?

If you enjoyed this blog, I invite you to connect and get in touch! I have a lot planned for Grow & Glow this year and will be launching my new services soon.

If you made it this far, thank you so much!

Lots of love, Magic Mollie <3